The reason so many people are so fed up with Dwight Howard is because they don't know who he is or what he stands for. Does he want to be a champion? Does he want to be a star off the court? Is he desperate to be respected or liked -- or both?
All of these questions remain unanswered because Howard has yet to define himself.
If he knew who he was and who he wanted to be, then the rest of us would know too. We know what matters most to Kobe Bryant. We know what matters most to LeBron James -- at least we know now; it wasn't clear when he was a free agent in 2010 -- and we have a good sense for the priorities of Kevin Durant.
The reason why it is so easy to doubt Howard's bottom-line intentions is because he has yet to figure them out for himself.